My husband and I are planning a trip in November. A really great one-week vacation at an all-inclusive resort down south. And although my mom is more than willing to care for Thomas when he’s not at daycare, we can’t help but re-evaluate whether or not we should bring the little one with us.
When we first started talking about this trip, it was supposed to be our last big trip before another little person came around. No, I’m not pregnant yet and we’re only in practice-mode right now. But we really wanted to get away just the two of us. However some of our friends travel down south with their kids and have a wonderful time. Plus, Thomas is an amazing traveller and loves the sand and water so he’d be so happy. But is this the kind of trip we want? To be stuck in the hotel room at night because he’s sleeping, or in the middle of the day because it’s nap time?
We’re wavering on what to do and want to book soon, so any advice would be appreciated.
Pros of bringing him with us
- We wouldn’t need to ask my mom to help out
- We love travelling as a family
- He’s still free so might as well maximize on it
Cons of bringing him with us
- Limited “practice” time
- Not able to stay out past 7:30pm
- Not able to enjoy the a la carte restaurants
- We can’t both be passed out on the chairs in the sun
- I would miss him dearly
Wavering on this reminds me of the couple we met on our honeymoon while vacationing in Cuba. They told us they had a 2-year-old and a 3 month old at home. I immediately judged their parenting for who would want to leave their children at home while they spent time away… but they quickly stated that a trip away once a year is cheaper than a divorce. The mother also said she cried when she left them and then breathed a sigh of relief when she woke up at 9am that first morning.
hmmmmm…. what to do?